The water cooler talk lately seems to be a lot about the HBO show “Game of Thrones.” The popular TV-MA show with nudity, illicit sexuality and even rape has us asking the question is this okay to watch? This is not new. Whether it’s HBO shows or Academy Award nominated movies there are some things in popular media that can easily lead us back to porn.
In this episode, we talk about the four pitfalls with popular media that can lead us right back to porn if we are not careful.
1. I can handle this.
- This pitfall is denial mixed with pride
- If you could handle this you probably would have no need for this podcast
- It’s mature to acknowledge weakness
2. Others can watch this, why can’t I?
- This pitfall comes from a place of self-pity
- It’s passive
- We mistakenly compare ourselves to others
- Remember you are steward of you
3. I should be able to watch this, it’s popular.
- This is an entitlement pitfall
- Because something is popular we want to be included
- We want indulge ourselves
- We flirt with the myth of moderation
4. When I recover enough, this will be okay for me.
- This a passive fantasy
- The goal is to live pornfree, not to live on the edge of porn and keep slipping every few weeks
- You are setting boundaries and making choices that will help you overcome in the long run, not constantly figuring out exactly where the edge is
- Constantly re-assessing where the edge is exhausting
If this episode has you questioning a show or something you are watching that not good for you here’s some tough love:
- This will never be okay for you
- If this works you will get more sensitive not less sensitive
- When you really give it up, you will not miss it
- Don’t start watching “Game of Thrones” (NOT RECOMMENDED)
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