106 – Back 2 Basics: F.A.S.T.T. Check-Ins

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Continuing our Back 2 Basics series, we review the tool of F.A.S.T.T. check-ins. This structured check-in process will anchor your recovery each week and improve your success.

This check-in format comes from Dr. Milton Magness. Its original use was for sex addicts and their partners after disclosure. However F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins provide a great framework for any kind of ongoing accountability.

The components of a F.A.S.T.T. Check-in include:

  • Feelings
  • Activities in Recovery
  • Slip Report (or Sobriety Check)
  • Threats
  • Tools

Resources:

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105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking

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How can we measure the health of our recovery daily?

In this episode, I share a new tool for daily recovery tracking that was inspired by the National Hockey League (NHL).

This is an addition to our Back 2 Basics series for new listeners. See previous episodes, 092 – Back 2 Basics: Edging and 093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine.

Pornfree Radio Recovery Tracker Interactive Spreadsheet (Google Doc)
Courtesy of Pornfree Community member, David
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Pornfree Radio Recovery Tracker Blank Calendar (PDF)
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“You are either working on recovery or your working on relapse…”

– Anonymous

Recovery Activities (+1)

  • Phone Call
  • rTribe Check In
  • Morning Routine
  • Group Meeting
  • 1-on-1 Accountability Meeting
  • Counseling or Coaching Session
  • Reading Recovery Literature like the Big Book
  • Meditation
  • Listening to Recovery Podcasts
  • Active commitments defined in plan
  • Fitness
  • Other Self Care

Relapse Activities (-1)

  • Edging
  • Double Look
  • Click Bait
  • Prolonged Fantasy
  • Masturbation (if part of your plan)
  • Porn
  • Lying
  • No Recovery activities for the day

Resources

1-on-1 Coaching

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104 – How To Deal With Depression

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In this uncut, unedited episode of Pornfree Radio, I share 5 things that help me deal with depression.

At the end of the episode, I read “The Promises” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Here is the full text…

The Promises
If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us – sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them. – Alcoholics Anonymous p. 83-84

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103 – How To Take Massive Action

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Do you want to jumpstart your recovery this week? Take massive action.

Matt is joined by Steve, a Pornfree Radio listener, who shares the 10 actions he took last week.

10 Actions:
  1. Started listening to Pornfree Radio podcasts each day
  2. Called Covenant Eyes to block all internet browsing on phone
  3. Went back to recovery meeting
  4. Deleted questionable apps from phone.
  5. Set up weekly check-in with recovery group leader
  6. Started recovery workbook: Thirty Days to Hope & Freedom from Sexual Addiction by Milton S. Magness
  7. Set up weekly counseling
  8. Called local SA groups
  9. Listened to Your Brain on Porn author, Gary Wilson interviews (see The New Man and Integrity Restored podcasts)
  10. Listening to audio books and recovery literature on TuneIn

Steve also referenced blogger and podcaster, Michael Hyatt.

A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.
– Proverbs 22:3(NLT)

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102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety?

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On my 6th anniversary of being porn free, I answer 2 recent questions; “How do you sustain long-term sobriety?” and “What does the struggle look like for you now?”

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101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read

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In 1939, the most important recovery book of all time was written. It has sold more than 30 million copies!

However you won’t find it when searching for “porn addiction” on Amazon.

And chances are you have never read it. But it’s a powerful recovery document and should be part of every guy’s toolbox.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • About the “Big Book”
  • Why and for who it was written
  • How the allergy of the body and obsession of the mind leads to powerlessness
  • What it means to us as we recover from porn addiction

Resources:

1-on-1 Coaching

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100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn

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Celebrating 100 episodes of Pornfree Radio by putting the focus on you the listener.

On this episode… Ben, a listener from the Pacific Northwest, joins Pornfree Radio and shares his story.

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099 – How do I start to feel again?

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My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions.

  • How do I start to feel again?
  • How do you address incognito mode within browsers?
  • Help! I’m a big sports fan and when my team loses, I relapse
  • Do you have any advice for me on how to pick up the phone?
  • Do you have any insight regarding the inevitable progression of the disease?
  • How did your wife get past the betrayal?
  • My accountability partner is not being honest…
  • And more!

Rev Group Coaching: January Groups

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098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group?

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In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like:

  • Do you have any tips for finding a group?
  • How long is a reasonable time to think about opening myself up for possible dating?
  • How honest is too honest especially this early in our romantic relationship?
  • Guys keep dropping out of my recovery group, Help!
  • If he doesn’t believe he has a porn addiction despite my objection and pain … do I just have no choice but to divorce?
  • If you’re really about helping everyone… why are all your paid-for products so expensive?
  • My accountability partner fell of the wagon, what do I do?
  • My dad struggles with porn also, how can I help?
  • My wife won’t have sex with me. Now what?

Rev Group Coaching: January Groups

RELAPSEREVOLUTIONGROUPBonoREV group coaching is weekly group coaching for men. It’s confidential with high accountability. We meet through secure video conference.

Each group is led personally by me. And I bring my experience, coaching and leading men for over 12 years on every call.

Registration is now open for January Groups.

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097 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 3: Your Tribe

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Pornography is a habit that is practiced in isolation and in secret. Isn’t it just common sense that to break that habit you need others?

This is part 3 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017.

You’ll learn:

  • Why you need a tribe to recover
  • Why committing to a group is the single most powerful action you can take to go porn free
  • The 7 benefits of being in a strong recovery group

Resources for Creating a Tribe:

  • REV Group Coaching (See below)
  • Recovered Men Secret Facebook Group (Request an invite, matt@pornfreeradio.com)
  • rTribe App (Download, tag yourself with #pornfreeradio, and friend “dobber”)

Register for Open REV Groups:  Dec. 15 and 22.  
Live: 8pm Central Time. Login through your computer or dial in.

Rev Group Coaching: January Groups

RELAPSEREVOLUTIONGROUPBonoREV group coaching is weekly group coaching for men. It’s confidential with high accountability. We meet through secure video conference.

Each group is led personally by me. And I bring my experience, coaching and leading men for over 12 years on every call.

Registration is now open for January Groups.

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